The in-law day

I'm not exactly sure how other race deal with their cultural difference. But the Chinese sexism is extremely critical where male is super dominance. At some point when the CCP enforced one child policy, the Chinese abandon female children, because the traditional Chinese only believe in male carrying the Sur name of the family, they call it 续灯火， it's like asking the descendants to carry the Olympic torch.

Me, being the 1 last male at my generation, despite not the most important person to "reproduce", but the family did set me as the most important person. It's like the last person to leave the house, remember to switch off the lights 😅

Now here comes a problem. The Malaysian local does not have the one child policy like the one in China where every household can only have 1 child. My dad is a 13 siblings family 😂 nope, not the Mormon rush who children made out of different factory. My grandma made all 11 dudes and 2 chicks.

When come to new year celebration, the first day is always the most important day where the male children will have to bring their family to visit the parents. You'll be asking, what about the girls? Well, in Chinese tradition, girls are outbound. They don't need to carry the family name after they're married, and the grandkids are no longer the same Sur name. They can come back the 2nd day of the celebration.

Instead of Houston we have a problem, I always shout KL we have a problem. My mom has always been complaining I left my home town too damn early, didn't stay for the 2nd day to wait for my sister to come back 😂 I had to keep on reminding her, what if my sister had to stay back at her in laws, will my mom be still happy with that? Not that I don't like my sister, but this type of inconvenient tradition is the pain in the butt and every year we will have to go through this kind of unwanted debate.

Fortunately, my in laws are quite the cool and modern family. Another fact being, I go to the in-laws like at least once every week, so they're kinda cool with just come by whichever day convenient. I truly appreciate the family who have absolutely no problem with me not around during the in-law's day, and my wife is kinda ok with it for most year(nope, once or twice in our marriage she did complain, but I'm cool with that too and told my sister will have to meet her later).

I'm not taking it for granted, and I will never let loose of the guilty feeling for my in laws. In the end, during the pandemic season, my in law is only 2km away from my house. I'm just gracefully thank god for giving me such wonderful people in my life to be my family.

After this, I will have to go sleep early so I can leave this place early in the morning. My in-law day already being delayed to the 3rd day, and I got absolutely no excuse to further delaying, especially for the reason of overslept 😂