Pain - The Pain of Rejection

The first thing about rejection that comes to everyone's mind is a negation or a negativity. Unfortunately, none of us really knows the strength of the world 'Rejection'.

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I feel rejection shouldn't be seen as a negation, rather it should be seen as something positive because it makes the one who was rejected to know his place in the lives of others and to make amends where necessary. However, it solely depends on an individuals perception.

Rejection maybe in many forms; rejection in an interview, rejection at work or worse case scenario, rejection from a loved one or a supposedly/potential loved one. I feel that the worst kind of rejection is the rejection that happens when we get a "NO" before trying. You must be wondering what I mean by this right?

Let's imagine a person putting all of his time, efforts, and every ounce of his energy into a certain thing and afterwards he don't get a chance to present it. Can you imagine his mental state? Let's also imagine a person putting in a lot of effort to make someone happy, to be friends with them and these people, by their acts, makes the person feel unwanted. This is the worse feeling anyone can feel.

Imagine someone in an office or in a relationship being made to feel as if he is not part of it. He is there but he isn't, he was almost there but he was never there. The worse of it all is when our efforts are not being appreciated. All these things break a person into pieces.

For me, the person who takes this as a challenge and prove everyone wrong is a real winner. The person who decides to make everyone regret for rejecting him is already a winner. The day he succeeds, he wins in life. With so many hardships he still has that drop of energy to overcome everything and bounce back to life. These are the real winners.

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The people who reject others should know that there is a lovable way to go about the rejection. Everything obviously, cannot be possible as per our wishes but to say a 'NO' in an apt way is so cruel. While rejecting someone, you should recognize the person's efforts and by so doing, you tend to make this perosn feel satisfied in a way. Recognizing someone's efforts alone, makes their day.

It may not affect you or bother you but it surely affect and bother them. They take out their precious time to make you happy. They care for you. Isn't it proper you recognize and appreciate the efforts these persons put in for you?

Obviously, you cannot be everything to everyone and you shouldn't expect people to feel the same way you feel for them or take you as important as you take them. You may not necessarily get what you want but at least always have the satisfaction that you did your best whenever you are rejected. Get back at life as those efforts which you took will only be fruitful if the other person recognizes it, which unfortunately might not work out in every case.

Know your worth and learn to channel your efforts on the right things and the right people so you won't be hurt when you are rejected.

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