NEVER MISUSE YOUR POSITION IN LIFE TO BULLY SOMEONE || Week 11, Edition 3
Hello and welcome to my page. I'm @daniky and here is my entry to the weekly featured content for week 11 edition 3. This post is in response to the question which states;
"Have you ever been bullied before? It could be in school, on social media, or even in your neighborhood. Do you know someone that was bullied? What are your thoughts on it and how do you think such a thing can be eradicated?"
Several years ago during my youth service days, the head of youth corpers of a local government area officially known as the CLO which is an acronym for "Corper Liaison Officer" was privileged to be my close friend. He was very dutiful and competent at every task given to him but one set back he had was for the fact that he womanizes and loves bribe like is life depends on it. For anonymous purpose i'll like to name him Smith. Smith was an activist and loves politics. He was more like the mouth piece of the youth corpers in those days so he was more popular than anyother youth corpers who served at Akwa Ibom state.
Due to the fact that he was competent and smart, he tried to take advantage on his fellow corp members. He was a bully and never regards anyone whatsoever. He became so full of himself and never listened to correction. He was rude even to the local government inspector but was diplomatic with him as well all because he has a good rapport with the local government chairman who was more like a godfather to him. He invited several politicians who needs the support of Corp members within the local government. He knows that no politician will solicit for the support of corp members without giving a huge amount to be shared amongst the Corp members so he allows politicians to visit Corp members even without the notice of the LGI and LGC at most times. Whenever money is disbursed for us, the CLO tells the politician never to bother sharing the money to the Corp members that he would handle that himself. After such politicians leaves, he'll then share the money to us and take 30% from our respective shares. He tells us he wants to remit the 30% left to the LGI (but we all knew quite well that he's lying). So most time we just leave him to decide what he wants, after all he was the one who brought the politicians to us.
The CLO became so full of himself and never wants to rapport with his colleagues often as before, I advised him but he felt so full of himself. He writes petitions against whoever crosses his part and make sure that the LGI punishes such a person. The LGI was a kind of person that loves bribe as well, so he often settles the LGI financially in most cases. You dare not travel for a day without the CLO knowing. He would blackmail you and ensure you spend extra years in the youth service. He had no respect for elders and youth indigenes. He became so notorious and was making himself look like a god before his fellow colleagues.
His cup became full when a notice circulated that he was stabbed by some cultists who were indigenes within the local government. He took advantage of a cultist's girlfriend and made her pregnant. So the group came looking for him till he was caught in his hideout. It was quite an unfortunate experience for him because the moment he was supposed to pass-out he was still lying helpless at the hospital for months. No politicians or friends could help him and he was left with no one to care for him. His girlfriend who was he corp member broke up with him. His life was scattered, ratered and bartered. Now he now realise the pains he caused alot of our fellow corp members during his active service. Fortunately for him, one of our corp members within the local government who was a serving doctor was able to care for him at little or no cost and this doctor was among the corp members he one's bullied while he was the CLO. He made lots of sacrifices to resuscitate him back to life.
Fortunately, on the POP day, the CLO tendered his unreserved apology for the pains he has cost many of us and what he has made us pass through during the course of being the CLO of the local government. We forgave him but his health never remained the same again. Today, there's a little impairment in one of the palm of his hands that got stabbed. So he can hardly do anything with it till date.
Lessons to learn from all these
Be mindful of the way you talk to people. You'll likely feel so bad when someone bullies you in return. So never do to others what you will never want them do to you.
Life is seasonal, the position that makes you look down on someone today might be the least position the victim might attain in life. Table turns around and that's the bitter truth.
Treat individuals with courtesy and empathy. Be humble
Many had lost their destiny helpers in life due to their bullish attitude. Be calm and make restitution with those you've offended to gain back your helpers.
See everyone you meet as someone important. Life is reciprocal and same as respect. Avoid vulgar words and be decent in all you do.
Your diligence may take you to a level of position in life but it takes character to sustain such a position. Be mindful of your character and work on it.
Never be too eager to rain judgement on someone without making a thorough finds about the situation at hand. You may be judging the wrong person, you know😉
So far, hope you've been able to pick one lesson or the other this content. This is my entry to the weekly feature contest for week 11 edition 3. If you're new to this platform and intend to participate, kindly visit here for more update.
This, that you have said is very important. We should always be mindful of the way we talk to people. Some people don't know that people will always read meaning to whatever they say.
Thank you for sharing with us.
That's very true. You're welcome @taiwo-micheal
Life isnt easy, we don't need people to make it harder, bullying is bad and it hurts, and what you said is true, we need to mind the way we talk to people. Thanks for sharing
you're welcome @nelson-george
It is really disheartening when people use the little power they have over others to be a bully. Not just in schools, we see this in places of work, worship, and the like. I just don't get why people feel so comfortable making life miserable for others.
Thank you for sharing this with us.
you're welcome @bruno-kema