Communication is Important
Hi fellow Hiveians,
Today I wanted to talk about how important communication is especially with kids!
Communication is Important
Communication is a skill that not everybody has, and those who have it may not have it an effective level!
I am certainly not the best on the communication department. I try to avoid conflict which is a good and a bad thing. There are a lot of underlying reasons for that, and some date back a long time. I remember some specific events that were conflict oriented that I don't necessarily want to discuss here on the chain, but I can see where my avoidance of conflict certainly stems from that type of stuff.
Because that stuff is deep rooted in my psyche, I know that I have challenges in that realm. The beauty of that, and knowing it is an issue, is that I can then in turn work on making sure that my son doesn't have the same issue as I do, as much as I can. There are certainly limits to that and extenuating circumstances that will arise, but for the most part we should be able to manage that type of stuff as much as we can as a parent.
The other day that was really evident that he is doing a lot better than me in the communication department. He was getting ready for bed and had already laid down for the night but I heard a little wimpering so I went to check on him. The poor kiddo was crying and it was difficult to see as a parent to watch your kid cry when it's something bothering them. They aren't sick, but they have a conflict going on so we have to try and get that sorted out.
The important thing that I saw in him was that originally he was hesitant to talk about what was bothering him, but eventually after a minute or two of me talking with him, holding him as parents do to their kids, he felt comfortable letting me know what was bothering him. This was a really important thing, as I know that some things I have that bother me end up getting bottled up and put away which is not a good thing on so many levels.
With the kiddo, I've been teaching him for as long as I can remember that it is really important to be able to talk with your mom and dad about things that are bothering you. We don't need to know every detail of your life, although we certainly won't object to them when you are young, but when you get older you have to have some borders. When it comes to things that are really upsetting you though, it's important to have people to talk to in which you can get that worked out.
When we were able to sit there and he told me his concern, we were able to talk about why it was bothering him, what we think the potential solutions to the problem would be and how we could get those plans put in place so that we could get past the issue. It took a few minutes to work through it but ultimately he calmed down and went to sleep a much happier kid than he tried to sleep as.
That's one of the most important parts about communication: it helps us get through things so that we can better manage others! I know I need to take my own advice here for it and don't to a certain extent, but I have annoying things ingrained into me that at the moment my son doesn't. This means that he is able to be better than I am, which is in my opinion the most important part of being a parent. It's really sad that more parents don't have this mindset, but there are so many other things on that topic to say that it's just not in scope for this one here.
What about you, do you have good communication channels with your kids like this? Has it helped them get through things? Let me know in the comments!
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That's a really good sign that he's able to let things out instead of bottling it all up or just trying to solve it on his own. I personally tend to struggle with this too, it's not that I can't communicate but more so lacking the know-how to discuss the issue in a relatable manner. Sometimes, it's like a remote feeling that I think I'm better off going deeper inside to look for solutions than going outside for help, from people.
There's a really important thing with being able to take something that we are going through and fixing it and figuring it out on our own. That's different but also really important especially as men!
Women tend to jump to therapy because for the most part, women's friends group growing up and through life is a mini therapy session. Guys don't get that and so we internalize so much. I find it very important that we don't rush to therapy the way women do because it reduces our ability to figure things out on our own which is really crucial in a man's life and when there's a family involved.
That said, I have issues where there are things I do need to communicate but I don't for various reasons and I'm hoping to help my son not have those same challenges as he's growing up.
Exactly, I think that part is really important to work on as a man but rightly said, it shouldn't be pushed too far or seen as the only way to solve our problems. In many cases, it's way beneficial to communicate and let it out and let people give you their insights from their own perspective on how they see the issue.
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Hmm I am not a confrontational person too, so I can relate to how you feel. ;)
I am when I need to be but I much prefer to avoid it most of the time. There's a difference between disliking it and being scared of it. Thankfully I highly dislike it but I'll tear some stuff up if need be lol
now communication level inside of families are SO low. Parents and even kids have their own tablets, phones, TVs, and they don't devote time just for chatting and discussing news, evens, feelings, thoughts...
It's crazy time with huge life speed, but even 15 min a day of a qualitatibe talk is so necessary and so important for bonding and understanding between relatives. It's much better than being 24/7 nearby but at the same time anyone is inside of his own virtual world.
Oh completely agree with you there! I find it very annoying seeing a room of people but nobody is talking because everyone is on their phones. Even texting each other while sitting next to each other what the fuck!
We aren't perfect ourselves but we spend so much time communicating in a normal way that I hope it sticks with my son for the rest of his life because that's what we should be doing, and every parent should be doing!