What a real prank! I won't leave those who cared for me.
You woke up one morning to find out that the people you have always known as parents are not your biological parents. With your adoption documents in your hands serving as proof, what would be your next move?
Waking up in the morning just to find out that my parents are not my biological parents? What a sad a painful situation. What a real prank? Well, my actions or next move will be based on how those my step parents have been treating me. Similar experience happened to one of my classmates when I was in secondary school. Though the man was his was his biological father but the woman he knew as his mother and his siblings that he thought was his biological brothers and sisters where his stepmom and brothers. This young man wept bitterly when he finds out the truth and if not that his father was his biological father, he would leave the house. You may want to know the reason behind his weeping. Yeah! He hasn't been treated fairly by those of his senior siblings when he went to stay with them in the city and his stepmom is not saying anything about it when he complains to her. That was the reason he went to ask his father who is his mother and he siblings. The Man had to reavel the truth to him and that caused him emotional pains.
Let's now assume that i woke up tomorrow morning just to see a document confirming that my parents i knew for the past 30 years are not my biological parents. Hmmm, it will really shock me. But at the same time, i will be happy to have known the truth. Now, what next. I need to ask them where they adopted me from. If it was from a motherless home and had no trace of my biological parents, i wont kill myself. If they have been treating me well like their own child, i have nothing to worry about. Instead i will thank them for telling me the truth and at the same time, appreciate them for being there for all these years. Though finding out the truth, it doesn't change anything. We will continue to live as one family. On the other hand, if i have trace of my biological parents, i will find a way to get in contact with them to know the reason why they gave me out. But no matter how heavy their reasons are, i wont see them as a loving parents rather those who adopted and cared for me.
Let's also assume that those my adopted parents now have their own children and started treating me badly with no trace of my biological parents, my actions here will be different. I won't live the house immediately rather, i will work harder to win their heart to love until i get what i want. Because for me to live to be on my own, it requires sum of money. While am working tirelessly to please them, i will be working hard to save some money too. But what if all my efforts proofs to be abortive? I had no option than to live to be on my own. Though it might not be easy at the moment but, with continuous efforts backed up with prayers, Jah the Almighty will make a way out.
Is not all about biological or adopted parents. What matters is your peace of mind. If they're are good to me, i wont make any move rather i will stick with them.
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Your first story about that young guy is quite emotional. Apparently, he may not have find out if not for the unfair treatment by his step siblings which pushed him to ask questions. I keep saying that regardless of the reasons some people adopt a child, I must commend them because it's not easy to nurture someone who isn't your blood. Like you said, your reaction will depend on how they have been treating u which is okay and if everything is fine...then the realization won't change anything
Thanks for sharing your view on this topic
Thanks so much. I really appreciate your nice comments
That part of working with your adoptive parents … honestly, if they don’t care about you, all of it would be null. The whole actions. I’ve seen it happen. No matter what you do, it won’t be enough. Best be on your way. That’s just my opinion though
Thanks so much, you really made a nice point
Some stories should be left in the dark, if the adopted parents are treating you well there is no room to be looking for what can bring emotional trauma for you, as for your classmate he had already had the feeling that the mother may not be his mother due to the I'll treatment gotten from his siblings
Unless they are not caring enough then i will leave.
Same here