Would you rather give 1 man 20 chances or 20 men 1 chance?
Most ladies would go for giving 1 man 20 chances and this is why most of them choose to stay in a toxic relationship, it is not wise to jump from one man to another, it has a great disadvantage so most time, they keep hoping the man they are with changes but in the end, he only gets worse.
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Logically, what they did staying is not so bad, if I were in their shoes, I would wait and hope for a change too, the moment I would leave is when the toxicity becomes unbearable and could lead to the loss of my life or damage to my health.
I knew of a family that started from scratch, fortune later smiled on the man and he started to commit adultery, he started treating his wife badly, the mother of his two kids who was with him during his tough time, when he had no money...
He was always seen with different kinds of women and he dared to bring some of the ladies to his matrimonial home, the highest level of disrespect to a woman but she was helpless because if she decided to leave, where would she start from and if she decided to give another man a chance, there is no assurance that he won't turn out like his husband.
She keeps hoping for a change but the man forgets about the past and beats the woman at any slightest provocation, the height of it was when he infected her with a terrible STi that took her months to cure, that was when she realized it was time to leave the toxic marriage and start afresh and that was the best decision of her life.
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5 years later, the man contracted Hiv and if she was still with him, she would have been infected too, he lost all the money he had and searched for her to apologize for how badly he treated her, she forgives him but nothing more, she can't go back to him, he is sick and had nothing anymore, moreover she found someone who treats her like a princess even after 2 kids, which was what she feared that being a single mother would make it difficult for her to find someone who would love her but she was wrong and God gave her someone she deserved.
This is the fear of many people and to be honest, not everyone would be lucky like her, some people's lives become more difficult after leaving their husbands hence why they would rather stay in that toxic relationship but I say, leave when it becomes unbearable.
Unfortunately, nothing can be done about it, I won't advise anyone to leave their relationship in any slightest discomfort, There is no perfect relationship, humans are not designed to be flawless so we just need to be tolerant and love them maybe they could change but when the toxicity becomes too much, leave my dear! that is the only solution...
I have heard of many cases in which people loss their lives in a relationship because they did not know when to leave or put a stop to the toxicity.
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I'd Rather stay single than be in a toxic relationship.
She did the right thing by leaving him. Fear of not being accepted by another man if she leaves the toxic relationship has ended the lives of so many women.
Thank God atleast women are starting to know their worth
yea you are right, it is better to be single than be in a relationship that can kill you
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Burl, 🙋 this is the best advice an Eagle could give.
No one should have to put up with abuse or mistreatment or contempt ... that's just a boomerang and what they are doing is hurting themselves. Fortunately, at some point she decided to get out of the toxicity.
Thanks! no one should
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Broken relationship is better than broken marriage.
I'm glad she was able to summon up the courage in leaving that abusive relationship before it's too late.
they were married, she was his wife... but yea broken marriage is better than losing ones life
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There are times when we may stay in a relationship and it wouldn’t work and there are times when staying may be good for us
Everyone should do what works for them
yea there is no formula to a successful relationship.
I think we should try our best to keep a relationship. Toxicity can come but I think partners should need to identify it and eliminate it. If it can't be eliminated, then I think leaving the relationship is the best solution for both partners.
yea right!
It is a grace, there are many single mothers out there crying after living their marriage.
Men are just using some of the for their benefit, and the moment a woman is above 40 years, the chance of getting married is slim.
There are woman above 40 blaming themselves for leaving their marriage.
It is a vice-versa, but for me, she did the best thing by leaving the marriage.
If I were a woman, I won't tolerate to that length.
I will personally handle my divorce paper to him.
I don't like abuse.