Why do people fall out of love
Some years ago, I was in love with a girl who later became my first girlfriend, the love was so strong that I care less about the existence of others, and I was lucky because the feeling was mutual...
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We would chat all night and she would sleep in the process, we talked about the future and how I wanted my kids to have her eyes, we had something unique and beautiful going on between us and with the way it was going, I never would have thought or imagine it would end the way it did.
The beautiful memories lasted for 4 months then the pains began, it started with her ignoring me which hurt so bad, I tried to figure out the reason and it was only one thing that came to mind, but I was not at fault, I just happened to be someone who would not defend his loved ones when they are wrong.
I tried to fix things but the more I tried to, the more we grew apart, I was hurting but I couldn't beg without knowing my offense, that is if I even did anything wrong, I have my ego to protect so I hurt in silence, my heart bleed because the only person that I want no longer value me...
It was worse that we had to be in the same place for hours, we were close yet so distant, I kept trying my best to make her talk but it seemed she had already given up on the love between us... All love was not lost yet because I was still very interested in her, Only if she could tell me my mistake and I could ask for her forgiveness but my love had no reason or excuse to give me... I have no choice but to let her be....I watch her from afar with sadness written all over me and I wish I could leave the damn place as fast as possible cos the only reason why I chose to still remain there just called it off with me.
The last month in the place was one of the worst moments of my life, only those who have experienced heartbreak would be able to relate but the time to depart finally clocked and I was eased a bit that I would leave the environment but still sad that I am going to lose the love of my life cos there will be no more communications.
I left! I heard from people alcohol helps to ease the pain, I tried it, and felt good for the time I was intoxicated but the moment I became sober, the pain doubled and I realized Alcohol couldn't heal me so I stopped taking it, I had to live with the pain...
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One day I was bored and decided to check her social media, her Facebook was logged in on my phone when the fire of love was burning in our hearts. Still, I never checked until that day and that was where the truth was revealed, she was already cheating on me with someone I know and they even discussed me... All the time she started ignoring me, it was because of the other person. I could not explain the way I felt that day, sadness mixed with anger and any other negative feelings you can think of.
It was a bad day but something good came out of it, she cheated on me and that is one offense I can never forgive no matter how I love someone, my heart still yearns for her but my spirit doesn't anymore, so it was a battle between both and the spirit won, I still felt her absence for months but I never reached out again.
So If you ask me why people fall out of love, I would say it is due to lack of commitment, not willing to be devoted to one person all your whole life... Communications also plays an important part, there is no relationship without communication...
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Sorry about your pain.. sometimes we go through things like this so we can value true love when we actually find one.
I had once given up on love after having several experiences similar to yours but I'm happy to be lucky at the moment.
Hope you find that love that'll make your pains pleasure and you'll be grateful you never ended up with a cheater.
yea we learn from experience, i think most people had rough days with love before they finally meet the right one
This is very common. Wishing you a blessed week. 🤗
Omo, i can imagine how painful this must have been. Well, atleast you found out she's not the one.
Usually there's a stage in love where the butterflies are no longer flying in ones tummy and you guys are already used to each other. Usually this is when some people get bored and start chasing the next thrill.
It wasn't real love because real love transcends this stage. Even when there's no butterfly in the tummy again you guys still find ways to make each other laugh and smile and still enjoy each others company. That is real love.
it wasn't real love for her... and you are right, the first 3 to 4 months of relationship is where the fire of love burns, after that, it requirements commitment and effort from both to make the relationship to keep sailing.
Awww, I was hoping that you guys even came back together not knowing she cheated. Oh! I’m so so sorry about that. So would you say you support going through your partner’s phone when he/she is acting up?
So would you say you support going through your partner’s phone when he/she is acting up?100 percent in support of this but we should not be a freak about it, once in a blue moon without them knowing is fine...
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People fall out of love when their love is being betrayed and shattered by their partners and they feel that true love never exists.
Dammit. I could relate to the pain, man. Been there myself. Lack of commitment and disregard of one's feelings is enough to know it's no longer love, not even the reality of being cheated on. Because on normal circumstances, you may have never see her chats. Eventually we grow and realise people will always be human, so use your head in the relationship as well as your heart.
yea but it is hard to let go, and this is why many people still stay in an abusive relationship.
and seriously, if I didn't see the chat, I would keep blaming myself till date that I ruined the relationship
My bro. I feel you die... It is well
Until man learns to love without attachment, especially for the first few months, this kind of thing would always hurt deep.
that is the level I am now.... nothing hurt anymore...
You really did your best to make things work but she lost interest. I don't see your fault in this. I learned not so long that most times when a lady starts giving someone she claims to love cold vibes, there is another gentleman someone who's giving her exactly what she wants.
Thanks for sharing this with us sir.. your boy is learning everyday
yea but back then, no experience so I didn't know what was wrong... hopefully the new lovers in town can learn from my experience
Hahaha... Not just them, I also learned from this.. 😘
I can guess the feelings of you. It's very hurtful to be cheated by anyone in a relationship. I hope I not to face such a situation in life.
i hope you won't! so painful
Cheating is definitely unforgivable, for the most part. Falling out of love can be a painful phase to be in, especially if there isn't any communication to at least make sense of the reason why. Good that you found out the reason why eventually, at least that chapter can be closed for good.
Forgiving a cheat is like giving them a second chance to hurt you again, once a cheat always a cheat
I loved my first girlfriend a lot. It took me over 2 years to finally get over it. Everyone knew me with her, so it was a shame when people asked me questions. I think she just met someone exciting, perhaps more handsome and all that, because she was already rich and well to do. So, people just meet finer people and there's nothing really attached
yes, sometimes they meet people better than their partner, and some other times, they get tempted by their close male friends, in my case, the person was her close friend, this is why I would never tolerate my girl having a male best friend.
Those 2 years must have been so painful, all men have a story to tell regarding heartbreaks🙁