The rate of depressed people in a relationship nowadays is high
I woke up to some tags today and the first message i saw was from my silly friend @xawi as she was tormenting @depressedfuckup for choosing such a name and wonder if he is really depressed or still depressed, so depressedfuckup was actually tagging me to come and deal with her lol, it would have been better if she stopped there but then she went ahead to tag all married couples as depressed and she did gave a dumb example of her friend who has everything yet still depressed in her marriage [ cos your friend is depressed does not mean the whole world is depressed in their marriage]😁....
My boss @Raymondspeaks came to the rescue as he save the day as he made her realize he has got a lovely wife who is very supportive and he has never regretted getting married nor is he depressed, this kinda shut our xawi up lol....
I won't say xawi is totally wrong though because the rate of divorce in my country this year is very high and those marriage ain't even upto 1 year....
Which prompt the question, why do people get married to someone they ain't fully comfortable with, someone they don't understand, someone they ain't committed to and especially to someone they don't love....
All the qualities i mentioned up there are all needed to have a successful marriage and also it increase your chance of having a happy home and a long married life with your wife/husband....
Unfortunately people get married for selfish reasons nowadays, some fell in love with the money and not the person and when they finally get married and had to live together, they start to realize money alone can't make it work...
You can't pretend for long you don't love someone especially when you live together, you will sub consciously shows that part and when your partner notice it, they will also react and big issues start developing from there till you both get tired of each other...
Understanding the person you are in a relationship with will save you lot of stress, you will know what they like and don't, what triggers their anger and things they despise and knowing all that and abstaining from them can help in saving your relationship, so before tying the knot with anyone, make sure you already understand them, make sure they are who you really want and they are someone you can tolerate their flaws......
The two partners must be committed to each other to make the marriage last, one sided love or commitment always end up bad when the person putting all the energy get tired....
Hopefully people can learn to understand their partners before making that big decision of their life....
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The things happening in my relationship today is definitely causing high rate of depression among couples.
This is the situation of things when people go into a relationship for the wrong reason, a lot of people fail to know that they can only pretend for a while and the true nature in them will definitely be revealed.
I encourage people to go for marriage counseling because a lot of things are been revealed there.
yea that is true but some people won't stop going into a relationship for selfish reasons, more of the relationship nowadays is mostly for benefits
Even love enough can’t make a relationship or marriage work because the most essential of it all is when both partners are being intentional and stay committed to each other No matter the flaws and situation of things,then they will be with each other forever.
Great content burl😊.
you are so correct and this is what i tell people, love alone can't do it, commitment matters alot. two people who are ready to stick with each other through thick and thin can have a successful one..
I can't survive in this type of chat lol, ewo tun Leleyi bayi Sha lol, am running away lol... Xawi and wonders lol
lol
Marriage really is a sensitive and complicated topic. I’m shocked when people these days don’t take caution when selecting their spouses. You’re literally committing to them for an entire lifetime and you won’t be careful to make sure they’re someone you can spend forever with?
Like you said, most of these marriages end because they got married for the wrong reasons and not love. The truth in human nature doesn’t stay hidden long. You can only pretend for so long.
Hehe I’m glad you finally came to my rescue on the xawi case. Thanks burly:)
yes that is just it, some blindly got married for their selfish desire, they fail to realize there would be many reasons that will make them want to flee the union.. you welcome😁
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Great perspective! I think false expectations and not basing things on reality is one of the main reasons for the high rate of divorce. There's no perfect couple, nothing down here on Earth is perfect. We have to learn to deal with the shortcomings, flaws and nuances. Commitment also plays a huge part. Many people these days are in and out like a blink of an eye.
exactly but it seems some people still live in the dream world and they want a perfect relationship without flaws..
This may sound like something we read, hear or see everyday but the truth remains that if we don't act now on some of this things we rate small in marriages some of us who are single might fall into thesame trap.
The rate of divorce and family crisis these days is just so alarming and sometimes I wonder why people marry whom they claimed they loved and then months later the home is already torn in pieces. Like what is really happening? They say we should pray, yes! That is a very nice idea but prayer without work is waste. We just have to work on ourselves and our relationships. It is a very bad idea to jump into marriage without fully understanding who your partners are. Very wrong.
The days for saying we will know each other better when we marry has past, there Is nothing like when we get to the bridge we will cross it in marriages again, we have seen many people who went with that mentality in and fell into the ocean. Know yourselves before you get married. If you can't take his characters you better quit now, there's nothing wrong with that
And if you're married already it is never to late to start anywhere, though the mistake has been made but you can still make things works by starting primary one on love together afresh. It just takes mutual understanding and tolerance.
For @depressedfuckup I must confess I have for long being contemplating why he choosed that username hehe. Boss , if you see this, you owe your boy some explanations😁😜
Thanks for sharing this with us sir.
relationship is more about tolerance and being able to adapt with your partner flaws because no one has it all, it woks great if both are committed and ready to sacrifice some things for each other, thanks man for the feedback
It's a privilege to read your post sir.... 🙏🙏🥰