My parents advice that keeps me afloat but one
There is a saying
A child can have as many new clothes as his father but can never have as many rags
Our parent lived in the world before us, they have experienced many things and they would never want their children to make the same mistake and this is why they are always singing in our ears not to do this and that.
They have lived for many years and know how the world works so most of the advice they give is based on their past experiences that either happened to them or to someone close to them and it could be something they witnessed.
I find it really hard to understand why my mum would always tell me not to do this and that, and often I do not listen to her because I find it difficult to understand why she does not want me to enjoy my life.
There is some advice she keeps repeating that I only get to understand in Adulthood.
- Ma ko ore [ meaning don't have many friends]
- Ma so ra e di alariya [ Don't party]
The first one of not having many friends did not go well with me especially when we still lived together I am still at a young age to play around with friends so that advice never sat well with me and most time it led to conflict between us that she would start searching for me with cane whenever I go out.
I later heard the story of how my father was betrayed by people he called friends and that was when I knew why she kept telling me that, she did not want history to repeat itself.
He who loves to party will either drink or womanize, this is also the case of one of my relatives and hence why she keeps repeating to her children not to party.
As destiny would have it, when I left home I stopped having an interest in petty things that boys do, I lost interest in everything and became a man who wanted to hustle and make it in life so I kept to the advice of my mum and it helped me a lot because assuming after changing environment I started making friends and abandon the things needed to do, I won't be in the position I am today.
Sometimes a change in environment is all we need to solve a lot of problems and become who we are destined to be.
One time my mum's advice was wrong was when she said I should not leave them that I should stay and find a workaround that I can be doing like other boys in our estate but I said no.
It is always good to follow one's instinct, and all it tells me is to leave, I wanted to leave the environment, I just wanted to escape the environment to another place to see new faces and start afresh and that was exactly what I did.
If I had followed my mum's advice to stay with her, then It would have been difficult for me to progress in life based on some reasons.
I had a lot of friends there and we engaged in gambling and a lot of fun, so there would be no time to think about my future talkless of working towards achieving something.
Maybe I would have loved to party because most of my friends then loved to party and I followed them to 2 but I did not like the noise and smoke and everything so maybe I would have stopped going to parties even without my parent advice because it doesn't go with my nature and spirit or maybe I would have find a way to adapt to it, who knows!
I am glad I didn't stay.
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I could not help but laugh at some of the situations you mentioned like your mother searching for you with a cane when you went out as a teenager 😄
Sometimes a change in environment can indeed help us find our true selves and direction in life. It's also interesting to see how your mother's advice about not many friends having having, not partying has played a role in your life. Kudos to Mama 😍
omo that time it was not funny, cos i divided my mind into two, one to look out for momsy and the other with friends, infact i also told my friends to help me be on a look out, sweet old memories lol
Parents are the best teach and I give a lot of kudos to them. It is true when they say what and elders seat down and see from afar of, if a child climb on story building, you won't see any of it. The same way my mother and father talk to me everyday and at some point I understand that what they are saying is just for my growth and betterment.. friends help, so does friends kill. We just have to be careful not to fall victim.
you are right, we need to be able to discern bad friends from the good ones
Yeah, you are correct. That's is why we shouldn't rush to make friends also. We should do things with care.
Our Parents are our Guidance Torch but they can never be always right in suggestions. We should follow what is most beneficial for our life. You made the right decisions to leave the same place and moved to another place. The new experience served us a lot of learning.
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Some parent might see it as gesture or not taking heed to there words.it mislead children now adays but leaving is a good option
A mother will always give you the best advice but sometimes they speak from their own experience and everyone has to live their own life so it is good to listen to our instinct, if we fulfill someone else's dream we will be frustrated and bitter
I do not support parent deciding a child's career for him/her. we all have our dreams like you pointed out
I can’t imagine your mom looking for you with a cane in the neighborhood.😂😂 I’m sure when one of your neighbors from them sees you they will be like is that not the guy that his mom use to chase him with cane all the time. Kids will always be kids.
At the end of the day you came to understand your moms reasons for all the advice she gave.
Moving out of one’s comfort zone is very important for some of us at some point in our lives because it helps us think better and reach our full potential.
lolz I doubt anyone will remember that part, and for my childhood friends we shared sweeter memory that they would remember not the momma pursuing me with cane part lol
yea i did and making use of her advices well now
As for me if I was there I sure will remember.😂
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It is true that a person who is older has more experiences of living in the world, but the way we see these days is that the children are not respecting their parents at all and If they don't care about their words at all, then they are doing more wrong and one day they will realize that we all must do that we must act on what our parents tell us.
parents will always try their best, making use of their advice depends on the child
Yeah you are right.
Friends help and friends kill
I hope we don’t jam the ones that will do us bad
There are many out there, we are the one that needs to be careful and not place ourself in their hands, private life is good
Most times our parents advice may go wrong but there advice is still the best we should always listen to their advice for our own good
yup
Okay
Every parent wants to guide their child in the right direction. They teach their children what to do and what not to do from their past experiences. No parent wants their child to be unhappy. Every parent tries to guide their child in the right path so that the future of the child is good. I enjoyed reading your blog and learned a lot, thank you very much.
Thanks man, Parents are indeed are our first teacher
you are welcome my dear friend
Wait! You don't mean it! You mean your mother was always looking for you with a cane😂 this cracked me up. It means you were really stubborn 😏
Our mothers really deserves some accolades for guiding us and making sure we take the right path though there are some advice from them that we have to think twice before following just like the one you said mama asked you to stay and work around. The best thing you did was to go against her and I am she too will be glad to some point that you the right thing.
if you see another word that pass stubborn, you can use it for me lol
I use to live a carefree life back then and I always do what is on my mind
Most of the advice they give us doesn't usually make sense on our point of view, but as we grow older and experience more of life, we begin to understand the logic behind their advice. For me, I tried taking in what my mum did more than what she told me to do or not do :)
You are very stubborn then, that was the reason your mummy searching for you with cane. Stubborn Children need to be corrected with cane. Your mummy is very daring and lovely, that was the reason he was searching for you with cane