Do not let anyone rush you with their timelines
As humans, we get addicted to things easily, if you cultivate the habit of putting on new clothes to church every Sunday, after a while you will realize you won't feel like attending church services if you do not have new clothes to wear, the same thing with those that love dressing to oppress others.
Unfortunately, most of those people we are trying to impress do not even notice us, we might get the attention of a few but definitely not all because people have what they are thinking about, problems they want to solve, lives they want to live and those things are more important than them noticing you.
Life is hard already and caring about what others think about you only makes it harder, trying to please people's eyes on you might make you waste your resources.
The first step I took to free myself from social pressure is by not pretending to be who I am not
In the new area I live, I have a neighbor who is very friendly and she is an extrovert who loves to go out, so we talk and we vibe a lot.
One day, she called my number and told me she was on the Island and she saw some things and asked if I wanted to buy them, I asked her how much were those things and she was calling exorbitant price, my statement to her was that I don't waste money and I would prefer to buy my things on Mainland if it was someone else in my shoe, they would have shyly sent her money and buy the expensive thing all in the name to feel big in her eyes but I do not care about that.
One discussion led to another and I told her I do not like expensive things, I prefer cheap ones and I also revealed if not because I had no choice, I wouldn't rent an apartment worth 500k there when my former house, the house rent was just 36k annually.
She became more relaxed with me when she realized I was not one of those who live a flashy or fake lifestyle and she stopped bugging me with those expensive stuff and that was when she revealed some secret to me.
She lives a fake lifestyle too, like taking a commercial bus to the Island then ordering an Uber for a 5-minute ride to her destination which is trekkable so that those people can think she ordered the Uber from the mainland and so many other stuff too, she was comfortable telling me I was honest with her about my lifestyle.
This is just to prove that not everything we see is real, some people wear different clothes daily but the truth is they might just be borrowing those clothes, some might be in debt buying clothes just to oppress others, and some are wasting money so others can acknowledge them.
The second way I prevent Social pressure is by avoiding Negative People
Some people also think having money means one should lavish it.
Imagine someone asking me why I do not have a car when I have the money to buy one, If I am easily influenced by peer pressure, then I would get a car as well but what is the usefulness of the car if I won't be driving it because I have no important place to go with it.
I would just buy it and park it in the compound to please someone who does not have a car but thinks I need one because I can afford it.
Asking me to buy a car because I can afford it is not the negativity, but when it now gets to someone rudely telling you or trying to mock you with words like See your mate is driving cars as big as you are, you do not have this or you do not have that
I terminate such people in my life with immediate effect, Don't rush me, please! everything will happen at the right time not by me rushing my timeline because someone is not impressed with my life.
Words like that do not get to me, I spend on what I need
I do not fall under social pressure, I am a loner but never lonely, as long as I am living fine, eating well, and putting on the clothes I like, I do not care what others think about me, the goal is to be rich not to look rich
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I totally understand why your neighbor books uber to her destination after taking commercial bus. All is packaging.
If she is going for an important meeting I think it's for her own good and proper presentation. If it's to feel belonged then it's not necessary
yea packaging, didn't bother to ask her but with her explanation, her friends were there, so it could be friends gathering[party] or colleagues at work meet up, no idea
Living a fake lifestyle is not good because at the end it brings frustration and tension. It's totally unnecessary but many people rush for it.
Avoiding negative people is good choice but we can't avoid everyone because somehow the come in front of us and try to pinch us.
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you are right, maybe those ones deserves a punch or kick so they can leave us alone lol
How I wish many people understood this... People living fake life will reduce tremendously.
I share with you that idea, social pressure is a trap, we have to know who we are and what we want, I don't get carried away by what others say or by advertising campaigns, I spend my money on what I need, not on impressing anyone, that can only lead us to ruin
That is the spirit, not trying to please others but ourself
It may actually be hard for you not to think about the way other people live their lives and that’s why we have to develop a thick skin so we won’t be pressured to do the things we do not want to do
well i don't know about others, for me, it is not hard for me not to think about how other live their lives, it is actually not my business.
Very well said! I think appearances can be very deceiving, especially in this age we live in. Many a living a fake lifestyle, trying to be on trend not realizing that few people care or even notice what they're doing. This negative habit of comparing timelines is something I used to struggle with, but then I come to realize that our life is our own, we create our own path and this can be very different from other's paths.
imitating or trying to be like someone else can lead to depression especially if we are not meeting up. we are doing great on our own, as long as there is progress
Exactly, that's what matters the most. Making progress on our own.
extravagant life will always lead to pressure
no doubt my man
Of course, this habit grows in a person. Some time ago, something similar happened to me. I used to make new clothes before going to every wedding. Couldn't buy it, so I stopped going to weddings, so we have to break this habit and live with whatever we have.
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