Before you say ``Yes I do``
Marriage is the union of a man and woman to become husband and wife, many people do not really understand the importance of getting to know their lover before getting married to them, it is after marriage their eyes will open and they get stuck forever with someone that does not fit them or try to find a way out of it, I guess this is one of the reasons why people divorce.
It is a forever deal, so there are some things we need to check and confirm before we make someone our life partner to avoid problems in the future.
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Some people shy away from this topic but it is one of the most important things that keeps a relationship and marriage, we have some people who believe in no sex before marriage, it is right when it comes to religion but in this civilized world, it is wrong and I will be backing up my claim with some points.
It is essential to know our partner's libido, it is wrong for a person with a low libido to get married to someone with a high libido because it will lead to sex starvation from the partner with a low libido which can lead to the one with a high libido into extramarital affairs, this is one of the reasons married people cheat when their partner keeps denying them of their right in the bedroom.
Also, there is a new to know your partner's size and see if it is your taste and can do the work, not wait until marriage night and start feeling disappointed.
If your partner does not like to have sex with you and you have to persuade them all the time, you guys are not compatible and do not rely on the hope that they will change after marriage because it will only worsen when other responsibilities that come with marriage show up.
Do not fall for this statement that often comes from the female gender, We are not yet married They often say this when they are trying to avoid some things, for example, if they don't want to help you to do something, they will say I can't do this until we are married, have you paid my bride price and other words similar to this, what is the assurance that they will do it after marriage because they can just come up with another excuse, when a lady is committed in a relationship, she will do all those things without you even asking her to do it, those who keep saying we are not yet married may not even plan to marry you and only keeping you because you benefit them in some way and when they are done with you, they will leave you broken....
Supposedly they plan to carry on with the marriage for a reason best known to them, you will have a big problem in the future because they will still find a way to avoid doing those things for you, so it is better to avoid getting married to someone who is not committed to you.
Men love to be respected in a relationship, it is proof that we are the alpha.
In cases where your soon-to-be wife doesn't respect you, your words and never listens to you, but only doing what she likes, you should know such a person is not the right one for you, imagine the disrespect when you ain't married and it will be tripled when you finally get married to such person.
some factors could make your woman disrespectful to you, not having money is one of them, and not being able to provide for her basic needs could result in it so as a man, before you think of getting married, make sure you are financially stable.
When we love someone, we tend to ignore all their flaws but some things should not be ignored, never rely on the hope that they will change as time goes on, it rarely happens.
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Oh interesting
I know most women will deny it but it’s so true that sometimes the respect a woman has for a man can reduce when he’s not able to provide her needs. Everything he does will just be annoying her.
lol thank God you admit it and you re right, many are in denial and they lie that love won't make her disrespect him.
Engaged marriage is not of the reasons why people divorce. It's highly depends on mindset. In my country most of the people do engage marriage and divorce rate is not so high. Those people goes for divorce who have not mentality to balance & sacrifice, (most cases). In fact in love marriage the divorce is a very common thing. There are many things to consider. So I don't agree with the point.
Sex before the marriage is not supportive because it's a thing people (male) will misuse greatly and many women may suffer a lot for the sex before marriage and it's applicable in those county where marriage is a requirement. I don't think in Nigeria it's not a good idea. Will you like it if your women sex with others because of past relationships? In my case I won't like it.
I am sorry if my word sounds offensive. I just shared my opinion.
I never said anything about engaged marriage
you are right that people will misuse it but it is already a norm and there is nothing we can do about it here, and since ladies are already into it, would you love to marry someone who has had sex with multiple people and when you get married to her, you found out that you can't satisfy her sexual urge?
it is okay not to engage in sexual activities if both are still a virgin but here in my country, virginity is nothing to most people
I said it as representative of not knowing a partner before marriage. 😅
In that kind of situation at some point of it, I agree with you but we should not give others as free a license to others. If that things allowed then law enforcement for invalid cheating should be established. In many countries, they live in relationships and law enforcement is good in case of someone cheating others. In the case of Nigeria, I feel in case of law enforcement is not so good yet.
I know that whatever you said is good from one perspective but everyone is not good in this case.
I can understand it. But still, Women are the sufferers at the end and we should not promote it untill some law is established for it.
This is an important issue bothe part need to look into before settling down for marriage. One needs to be sure about sexual life and also the level of commitment so that there won't be problems later. That's why we need to clearly state the kind of relationship we want to safe our children from future trauma.. Commitment in this time is a problem to some people in relationships and it's causing problems to lots of marriages.
yea many do not want to be committed, they hate commitment and i think such people ain't ready for marriage
Yeah, but even when they are ready, it will be hard for them to commit because they will find it so difficult
Hmmmmmm brother alpha 🥹😂
I wish everyone out there will read this! I so much love it. Permit me to add that, One thing that makes a woman to respect her man is potentials and efforts. Some men are really annoying, potential, they no get. Efforts they are not making! As a man, even if you don't have money, this two things you must have because they are the gateway to having money and earning respect from your woman.
yes ladies also love a hardworking guy, their eyes are as sharp as an eagle's own because they can tell a guy whose future is bright and this is why they stick to their broke bf sometimes cos they know he is a future odogwu lol
Yeah the sexual compatibility part is very important, people shy away from it but that’s one of the problems couples face in marriage.
This was such a good read, you dissected everything without holding back. Thank you for sharing😃
yea a very big problem, 95 percent of people face this problem, it is just worse for people with more body counts.
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lol
I have all these things nah man remain😂😂
Men love to be respected but a lot of ladies always want to act like one of their friends who’s giving them some wrong advice not knowing that the Daly so much respects her boyfriend
I get what I give so if I respect my man, I’m sure he’d respect me too if he’s not a werey😂
you know how it works, in most relationships, the friends of the girls are the committee that oversees and gives bad advice to the gf and the guy would keep wondering why his babe is misbehaving
It's a nice topic to read and you have written it well. I agree that men expect to be respected but women also expect to be treated like friends. I think that respect should exist in every relationship.
@sagarkothari88 vote
Respect is important and a woman who respect and obey her husband will be rewarded greatly, because men adore those who respect them.
Respect in a relationship makes the man feel wanted just like giving women attention makes them feel wanted, coming down to the sex part, I believe it's best to know your partner, and in the process of knowing your partner everything is included even the bedroom side of it, people see sex differently and some have experienced it differently also so it's best to know our partner's stamina in the other room to know if we can actually stand each other or we can't, then we ask ourselves questions like "is it something we can work on" if its something we can work on then the marriage is certain.
No virgin for Nigeria again😁😁
lol, I think we still have a few from the underage