Recommend A Friend Today!!!
Do you know how hard it can be for some people to recommend or refer their friends for business or opportunities? They can come across something that’s not for them, but they know a person or two who such a thing will favor. Then, instead of recommending their friends, they simply keep quiet and allow it to go to someone else. They know their friend is capable, they just choose not to let them know.
Do you have such a person in your life? Yeah, I believe we all do.
Sadly though, this is not a crime so there’s nothing we can do about it. You’re not mandated by law to share opportunities, so if you choose to keep them to yourself no one will come to your house to arrest you.
But this is a terrible way to live. It just shows that we’re not interested in the growth and well-being of the people around us. We know very well that that little recommendation would go a long way in helping them grow, but we choose to keep it to ourselves.
Could it be that we really don’t want their growth at all? Or at the very least, we don’t want them to become bigger than us. Because this is a fear a lot of people have. Instead of working to become bigger than everyone, they try to keep everyone else smaller. This is a messed up mentality because it just keeps everyone stagnant, there’ll be no growth at all and nothing but bad blood will be brewing.
It’s particularly sad though when such people also grow by getting recommendations from others. The very thing they used to ascend the ladder, they keep it from others as well. It’s just like taking the ladder with you when you get to the top so no one else can join you. You’ll be surprised at how many people are like this. They act all friendly and nice, but within them, they don’t want anyone else to prosper.
If by some chance a friend of theirs decides to try something new, they’ll be the first to discourage them and tell them all the reasons such a thing won’t work. They’ll slide in like the voice of reason and pour their poison into your ears until you become so demotivated that you quit the idea altogether. I personally know someone like that.
This is why we have to be careful of the friends we keep. Just because everyone smiles at us doesn’t necessarily mean they are happy about us. People hide behind smiles all the time to hide the ugliness buried within them, as a result, we must never let down our guard. Always know that no one will ever love us more than we love ourselves, and in the end, when it comes to the basest levels of man, everyone will only act in their best interests. That’s what’s natural.
Thankfully though, not everyone is like that. There are great people in the world who seem to carry the business of others on their heads. They seem to be the ones always coming across opportunities and linking their friends up. They know very well that if everyone is growing at the same time, there’ll be little reason for enmity among them.
Such friends are gems and whatever they tell you is genuine. Make sure you hold on to them!
You might not get another.
The former category is made up of very selfish and self-centered individuals. There is one adage in Yoruba language that translates this; "the sky is wide enough to contain every bird without one hindering the movement of the other." They deserve to be given distance.
This category is superb. Those that belong to this group are passionate about the growth of others around them.
I didn't realize you are a Nigerian. This is a revelation... Lol.
I am a Nigerian without reservation.
Indeed... the sky is wide enough for everyone to fly comfortably. However, some people seem to think that others shining will somehow diminish their light. Just sad.
I think the reason other people do not recommend us for various positions or opportunities is because of the experiences they had in the past.
Another reason is usually the way we begin to treat them like trash once we arrive. Some of us will begin to feel the person who recommended us for that life-changing opportunity no longer fits into our world and we treat them like less human.
Haven't you seen how the narrative around women helping men to fulfill their dreams at the detriment of theirs has made them laughing stock because some of those husbands suddenly realized their wives do not fit into the world that they sacrificed to help them build?
This applies to friends, familiar, and the like. They are not afraid you will do well. They are afraid of how you will treat them when you make it...
Wow... this is actually another angle that could be looked at.
People are expert at biting the fingers that feed them. The moment they make it, they forget everyone who helped them climb up and even demonize them in the process, making them look like the bad guy.
This is very correct, Iska...
Thank you.🤗
People can be funny with their reason, not recommending a friend because that friend could become more successful than them. I have a friend who would rather help outsiders and unfortunately for him, he ran into an issue. He needed his friends and we could barely help him with what he really needed because we didn't have enough.
If he had shared opportunities with us then, even one person might be able to take care of his problem at the time it came up.
I love to recommend people when an opportunity shows up but I am being careful doing that now after an experience I had some years ago. Honestly, some people hesitate to recommend it just to avoid trouble.
I have friends who are painters, mobile/ computer engineers and others. We have been together for a long time and I can't the number of times I have recommended them to people because they are reliable.
I have always believed that helping others to grow is one of the ways to grow in life.
No one knows tomorrow indeed. That help rendered today might end up favoring you in the future. You never can tell. The only thing is that people choose to focus only on the present, forgetting that the future is mysterious and we can't really predict what will happen.
It is very good to surround yourself with people who always want to lift you up and support you.
Some friends see you doing good in your business so they may be jealous and not want to support you
That's not nice
We rise by lifting others
Indeed... we rise by lifting others. This is easy to say, but a lot of people find it hard to follow.
People who are so true and want the best for others are hard to come by. Many people feel recommending their friends could make them better and they keep away information and opportunities to themselves. But one thing I know is that these kinds of people are always behind because if they don´t do it, another person will do it. So, we need to not keep opportunities to ourselves alone, knowing a friend can benefit from it.
It's especially annoying when they themselves can't use the opportunity. It's of no use to them and they still won't give it to those who do need it. Just tragic... that's the only thing I can say.
I think everyone is not our real friends. Some are actually friend and other try to act like a friend. And it's natural they try to hide their true intention and they are not well wishes of us. So, it better to understand who are actually our friend and who are pretending to be our friend.
Understanding them might not be so easy, especially if many of them choose to pretend. But then, what else can we do? We need people in our lives and getting the right ones is just so difficult!