Not Everyone Deserves Help!!!

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If there is one thing I will always marvel at, it’s the audacity of some people, especially people who don’t really have much to begin with. As in, it’s okay to be in need and then understanding that someone chose to help you out, so you decide to be on your best behavior and do right by them so that they don’t regret the decision of helping you out.

However, there are those who will never be like that. There are those who will beg you with everything they have, and then once they’ve gotten what they wanted, they’ll spit right in your face. It can be a really painful thing to find that someone who you helped will make a total 180 just because they think they don’t need your help anymore. However, for some reason though, they’re not the worst kind of people. The worst are those who are still in the process of receiving your help and are still acting up. As in, where do they manufacture such audacity?

One of my neighbors had a friend of his come over to stay. My neighbor is an engineer, so he’s always going on trips. Sometimes he could be gone for weeks at a time, and during that time, the home sits empty. He used to live with his girlfriend there, but she’s currently serving, so the house is empty. When he comes home from his trip, he’s usually tired and unable to do the kind of cleanup that would be required from a home that’s been left to lie fallow for weeks, he had lots of gadgets but they were basically useless to him because he had no time to sue them, not even when he was home.

Anyway, considering all this, when a friend of his talked about how he was looking for a house but he needed somewhere to lay his head temporarily. He asked my neighbor to accommodate him. He swore that it would be for a short while and once he got his place sorted out, he would move out. My neighbor agreed to it, after all, the house was always lying empty. At least, if someone was living in it, it would not be so dirty and dusty when he returned from his trips. He didn’t mind the guy, as long as the stay was temporary, he was okay with it.

However, that turned out to be a mistake because this friend of his seemed to forget that he was only a squatter. He basically made the house his own. He started bringing in friends of all kinds, men and women who were messing up the sanctity of his home. They were doing things that he would never have done in the house. When my neighbor returned from his trip, the house was even more unkempt than when it was allowed to gather dust; and even worse, he could find evidence that the friend had smoked marijuana in the house. It smelled in every room of the house. They didn’t stop there; some of his girlfriend’s things that had been kept in the house were also tampered with.

With all this, the guy didn’t sweep, there was no water, it was as if he was only using and using without any consideration of the owner of the house. My neighbor became so uncomfortable in his own house that he couldn’t even spend the night there, he was forced to sleep in another friend’s house for the night.

The next morning though, yesterday morning to be precise, he returned and kicked the guy out. The friend begged and begged but the disrespect was just too much. Even some others on the street tried to beg the neighbor to consider that the friend was basically homeless but he wasn’t interested. He told them everything that the friend had done in his absence and how he couldn’t condone it. In the end, the friend was forced to leave. No one knows now where he spent last night, and personally, I don’t care.

I don’t tolerate disrespect of any kind and I love the way my neighbor handled it. There are people who will prefer to stomach their feelings because they don’t want to kick him out of their house, or they want to preserve their friendship. However, someone like that is not worth it. If he can’t respect your home in your absence, or can blatantly disrespect your partner like that, then they don’t deserve your friendship. The last thing I will do is to put up with someone who doesn’t rate me at all, because no matter how many chances you give these people if the roles were reversed, they would never do the same for you. Even if they do, you’ll be faced with so many conditions that you’d rather go and live under the bridge because you’ll have more freedom there.

Anyway, why am I sharing this with you? It was just something that I’m sure many of us have come across at one time or the other, and I wanted to share mine. I’m also sure that we know of such people in our lives. Some of us are still cuddling up to them, despite knowing the dirty behavior that they exhibit, others are smiling with them but making sure that they never come close. And then, there are those who don’t have strength and simply kick them out of their lives. That’s always the best option.

Remember; you can never be too old or too mature to be petty. Not when it comes to your own mental health.

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_{Thank you for reading. Feel free to share your thoughts in the comments below, I would love to know what you’re thinking. Till we meet in the next post.}

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_{N.B: All images used in this post are mine. The thumbnail was designed using Canva.}

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