He Made Me Cry.
Sometimes, I feel like my relationship is a curse but at the same time, I feel good when the relationship is going on well. Sadly, my man and I have been at loggerheads these days. I mean, we’d pick up a fight today, end it tomorrow and pick up another fight next tomorrow. It keeps happening like that and it is really tiring.
The relationship begins to die when we keep having issues everyday. It may even lead to hatred on the long run. I love him but I feel bad about what’s happening.
Let me just say that the two of us lack proper understanding of ourselves. He doesn’t understand me and I don’t understand him. Maybe that’s it and sometimes I feel he’s not smart enough to catch what I mean.
We’re in love and we tell each other things a lot. I’m not the kind of girl who loves to pretend. If he does something and tells me about it, if it is wrong, I’d let him know but he so much dislike the fact that I blame him when he’s wrong and he doesn’t take corrections.
I’ve always told him that no man is an island but he feels he knows everything and no one does things better than him.
This morning, he brought up one issue. His best friend is a lady and they live together due to the fact that she’s looking for an apartment and could not get one but it’s getting too late. I don’t think no woman will ever accept the fact that another woman is living with her man. I’m not cool with it but I had no choice.
They are beginning to get close and I'm not cool with the closeness.
Now, he told me today that he seems me as someone who could hurt him in future just because of how I have always complained about his relationship with that girl.
He said he never liked the way I react anytime he tells me something and he feels it will be difficult to reveal his secrets to me when we get married. He said he wants peace and an understanding woman but I’m not giving him any of those.
Honestly, I feel pained and I’m crying right now. Why would he say those words to me?
He made me feel less of myself and my friends have even told me to break up with him when we started having issues because of this lady. I feel that’s the best thing to do right now.
I don’t think he should ever tell someone he wants to get married to those words.
If he goes by these words by hiding something from me when we get married, it is likely fit the marriage to end very fast.
I won’t break up quick but I’d just start having it in mind that the marriage is a no go area.
If you were in my shoes, what would you do or what do you suggest that I do right now?
Keep talking. Keep listening. Pass no judgment. Without talking there is no future
Hmm
Thanks
I’d do something about it
Allowing his best friend to live with him is so wrong! Who knows what they will be doing when you ain't there... and the fact he is even trying to gaslight you makes it annoying... i don't see any future in the relationship because the atmosphere is already toxic, it is okay to fight in a relation but when it get too much, then it is a sign you are not compatible
This is really thoughtful
Thank you so much
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