The love that speaks to me. Weekly engagement #46.

Love speaks and that is what the famous author and clergy, Gary Chapman, expressed in his book The five love languages.

Love is a vast topic, one we cannot truly comprehend its depth in totality but we can only do our best to stay afloat, like a boat on a sea.

My preferred love language.

Having given careful thought to this question posed by the #hiveghana community, I discovered that I'm inclined to all five love languages. I like receiving gifts, physical touch, words of affirmation, spending quality time and acts of service. (I think every female is wired this way, hehe).

_{photo by Mikhail Nilov}

Of all the love languages, my most preferred is quality time. I will be leaning more on the romantic love aspect as I give my reasons and illustratuons.

As a child, I watched my family stay and spend quality time together either gisting or watching movies in the sitting room together. My mom would make exaggerated screams and shouts as we watched while my dad would keep a straight face like he was not going to be fooled by any wierd acting, no matter how horrorful it seemed. I recall that I and my younger siblings would make snickering remarks about the way and manner mom was either screaming, crying or laughing while watching these movies. Those were precious times to me.

I guess this rubbed off on me as I also value quality time with my partner. More than simply declaring "I love you", I expect that my partner would carve out sometime for just us. There would be no interruptions from our gadgets as all the focus would be on serving each other better.

_{photo by Ketut Subiyanto}

We could go on dates together, go watch a movie at the Cinema, go horse riding at the beach or simply stay indoors to netflix and chill🤧. All these would really make me happy and feel loved.

More importantly, this is the love language that has the other love language embedded in it. Let's look at it from this illustratuon. While spending quality time with your partner, there is bound to be some touching like cuddling, hugging or even holding hands.

Then it could progress to either partners doing some acts of service for the other like opening the car door, carrying her bag, preparing popcorn and drinks for movie night, bringing out a chair for her at the restaurant and even doing the dishes together.

_{photo by Leeloo the first}

From that point, words of affirmation would flow, in other to show gratitude and encouragement. The only love language left out would be giving gifts but the rest are already covered in just one love language, that's called hitting bull's eye.

I can't bear to be away from my love partner for too long. This is quite different from being clingy as we would both have our space to do our own thing but still make out time for us amidst our busy schedules.

I truly salute couples who stay weeks and months apart or even do the long distance thing. Seriously, they are trying as I can't deal with such at all.

Thank you for reading... shalom