Should he be accepted or rejected
For the few years I've stayed on earth, I can't proudly testify of enjoying fatherly love, attention and care as I was deprived of this from one who calls himself a father.
Growing up, I saw my mum as my hero, provider, friend and adviser. She was always there for my siblings and I even when it felt like things just didn't want to go well. 13years ago, my mum, siblings and I where abandoned by my dad with nothing as my brother was just born. There was no help from anywhere except from my mum. She was our pillar who stood strong for us when we needed her. She appreciated us with so much love, care, attention and of course discipline.
We found it quite hard to cope at some point especially with the bills starting form the feeding, rent for the house and the school fees as we all attended private schools. But she managed to fix all these even if it meant her selling her expensive wrappers and jewelries and during this period, we hear rumors of my dad happily living his life with others without thinking about or survival, what if we where not fairing well or worst. But no, even when we sent messages to him, it was ignored.
My mum engaged into different businesses inorder for us to survive and look good like other kids, from owning a hair saloon to selling footwear and cloths to owning a restaurant to selling scraps. Though these businesses where moving fine, I knew my mum was lonely, depressed and passed through a lot but there was nothing we could do as kids. Some times, we get into the house to see her sobbing and whenever you asked her, she says he has something in her eyes making them teary and she's owk.
And after all these years, for 13 good years, he returns saying he is remorseful, sorry and regrets everything he has done. Him coming to our house, and my little brother calling him uncle was shameful enough. But my mum has sworn to never forgive him. To me, with everything he has done, he should just leave and not return like he does but I need other opinions on this as I don't want my emotions to control me.
Please do well to comment what you feel and your opinion. Thanks for reading
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I understand a great deal about pain, If you feel you don't need your father anymore it's completely okay, but ensure you are not making this decision out of, bitterness or pain of what he has done.
He doesn't deserve your family's forgiveness, also remember it wouldn't be called forgiveness if it were to be given to those who deserve it.
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Also, know that you guys will never be able to get rid of the pain until you have forgiven your father.
Thanks dear....I appreciate your advice
It is difficult to give advice on this topic, as every situation and case can be different. But you know best what he has done and what he missed doing. Forgiveness is important, not because of the person who hurt us but because of our tranquillity and happiness. But things should not be forgotten... as then the same mistakes will be repeated.
Thanks for the advice dear❣️