Dear Diaries

Comparison among the circumstances of life assembles you either gloomy or delighted. This Eid I found out the value of relationships no matter how least they impacted on my life.

• Earlier stages;

That vibe when relatives visited my home and called upon my name and they always greeted me " Eid Mubarak" no matter if I was ready in eid outfit or not. This proved to me that I matter independently for them, not those fake looks that I carried. The food which was on the festive event was sometimes hot as they liked to serve them earlier. And a few times it didn't taste superb. The reason behind this was two, one as it was made in bulk and second was the struggle of ladies who were exhausted after Ramadan and then performing scrubbing the home as an Eid prep. But to me it was almost wonderful. My home kitchen was so filled with these sweet dishes that I have to confront a shortage of plates hehe. Eid snaps contained the whole family who were giggling with the ugly background or the messy room settings. I used to wake up with the sound of an argument which used to happen between mom and dad haha they both loved to make the sweet dish Halwa ( samilion porridge ) . So Abu was in view to roast the somilion more and mom was in a hurry that I would get burnt and will taste bitter hehe. When it was made yummy both were taking the credits lol. Everyone from our family visited us and I was a single sister so I collected a lot of Eidi which was little in amount. And the most important remembrance was that I was on call service. Everyone who wished Eid Mubarak only talked to me as Ami was busy in disturbing food and Eidi. And in the evening when she was free then she called them back. So I had a lot of influence in my family haha.

• Between the thrones;

Now coming to this Eid as I gave a statement that this Eid was not like the aforementioned one. Firstly that greeting part was missing as people in cities don't visit often they only see when they need your favor. Eid snaps were made in luxurious rooms but they were not Family snaps. Sweet dishes had perfection but I missed the love essence. Ami remained stuck with the phone and she was in tears as she acknowledged who far she was from all the loved ones. Although we visited the restaurant and recreational places, visits we did in the past to our maternal or parental home gave more such excellent vibes. I am not saying I am a thankless person, but just making a point that life doesn't remain the same, so enjoy the moment you are having right now. I remained in the sad phase of missing everything and on the second day I said to myself girl next year you will not have the identical stuff. Maybe you will be in your husband's home and missing the parents so enjoy the perks you are having right now.

So the next stuff which was whirling in my mind was regarding understanding. I have heard the statement that a girl should learn all the skills to rejoice in a happy married life. But now things have been altered. I am quoting all the stuff from my surrounding stuff. No matter if you know cooking or not, no matter if you are pro in managing home or not, at least you must know how to keep your relationships happy. The sweetness in your tongue is the key point behind a successful married life. My brother once said that one can marry a maid if he wants to see a managed home.

A moody and arrogant lady can ruin a happy life.

Her mood influences everyone's life each day. I met with ladies who are doing jobs, few are totally off from their parents but they are happy. Because the ladies know the skill to keep the family happy. Everyone encounters kids' stuff, workload but at least one shouldn't over react. My mom's psyche has changed now. Happiness is all about the goodness in words and thoughts. If you aren't loyal to the happiness of your family, don't look for a bright future. The sacrifice which was mentioned didn't mean you have to pay expenses, it's the expressions or the feelings which fetch you in different situations. Your so-called ego shouldn't become the reason for a broken family relationship.

So all the ladies who are reading this now I need your feedback on this. Even the gentleman can present their viewpoint too hehe. The clicked snaps belong to me and I shared it for a purpose to represent how real Eid is celebrated in our culture. The header image is my creation as fashion designer lol lets laugh together.

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