My Feeling Is My Personal Business
When people act as if they know about our lives.
I often imagine what people might think about their day. Or, about how they feel or about what they have to do for the next few days to survive. I'm really curious about those things. But I never interfered in their life's affairs for a second. I only invited my own mind to have a dialogue about it all.
Well, I'm writing like this while looking at the rice fields from the corner of a cafe this afternoon. The view doesn't look very good because the rice has just been harvested but at least here I feel calm. This place is indeed quite quiet when you have a view like this with rice that has been harvested because this place is usually crowded with visitors when the rice is green.
You could say I'm taking advantage of the current situation. At least it's not so bad, right, to contemplate in a place like this? I don't even care if it's a public place as long as I do things that are considered normal it's fine, right?
So let's go back to the original topic. About feelings about what people feel..., or about how someone is curious about someone else's life and tries to interfere in that person's life.
Honestly, you could say this is related to my personal problems. I feel like someone else is interfering in my life. I don't want to talk to that person either. Instead, I'm just sharing how I feel here with you guys at HIVE.
It's Okay To Not Be Okay
It's natural for us to feel sad at certain moments but not everyone understands that sadness. When someone is sad maybe other people don't understand why that person is sad and even the most terrible thing is that people say "why are you sad too much" or they say "you are too much you cry".
Those words were actually quite evil. If they couldn't calm someone down or take away someone's sadness, at least they shouldn't say such mean things. It's enough to be a listener or let the sad people in their own space, don't try to get close in their private area. Is it really that hard?
It can be said that the way people think in certain areas or certain groups greatly influences how they act. For example, in the areas where I live, people are used to meddling in other people's business because usually, this is due to their low level of work. Usually, they don't do anything after they take care of the housework, then they have a lot of free time so they have plenty of opportunities to talk about other people, to take care of other people's things that they shouldn't interfere with at all.
My Own Business
A little about my life this time, I just lost someone I love the most in this world. She left me for good and I could only return to her at her grave. I can't hug her anymore. I can't hold her warm hand anymore. I can't cook for her anymore. I can't buy clothes that we like the color of together. I'm very sad about that. In fact, I don't know how to write about that sadness.
: SHE
At first, I thought I was fine. Day by day I felt very lonely when I was at home alone, no one else came to visit me from there. I realized that I was not very well. I find it very easy to shed tears even though I don't feel sad and when I'm sad, I feel I just want to leave wanting to leave this world. That's what my thoughts say my mind is in dialogue with myself. But don't worry I'm not that stupid as to do reflex things: to be clear, I don't want to hurt myself just to get out of this world.
I'm always aware that in any situation I'm sad or sad whatever my situation at that time, I'm very aware that this life is filled with beauty even though sometimes there are some sad and very sad surprises but Life is very worth to be enjoyed for the future. So giving up is not the best solution for all our problems, we just need to calm down, we just need to withdraw from our old habits to start a new life to move on.
The point that I highlight here is my feeling is that my personal business, and other people have no right to interfere with what I feel I want to be sad it's my right I want to be happy it's also my responsibility I have the right to what I feel other people don't understand at all what I feel.
They act as if they know very well the details of my life. They failed to cheer me up. And, instead they made me fall and fall even deeper.
But once again I reiterate, even though I feel very deep, I know where my limit is I must stand. I have to get up, I have to start a new life, because I know I'm very valuable and I don't want to give up at all**.
As human beings, we have our own way of solving our problems. We are unique, our way of thinking is unique. So the way we look for solutions is of course different. Don't think that I am the same as you. Never assume you are the same as me or themselves.
Let each of us do our own thing, as long as no one asks to be involved in his affairs. Tell? Why is it so hard for you not to interfere or not enter into someone's personal space?
I Just Need Space and Time
I just need some time to myself. I just need time to get away from things that are very unimportant, including from people who are very worthless. And, I deserve better words than that, because life is indeed better than today, I'm sure of it.
I just lost someone and leave me with my sorrows. What the hell (with people who think I'm overreacting and grieve too long). I want to enjoy my time more alone to plan my future days my days without someone who has left me I just need time for that I'm not desperate and I don't involve people at all to help me with my feelings I realize It's true what I feel I'm okay if I don't feel okay so one thing I want to say is don't pretend to feel like a hero When they actually really destroy my feelings by saying that.
I really appreciate the intentions of those who don't want to see me sad for too long. But, oh man it's not even a month and let me be with my world. I have my own way of dealing with my problems. So far I've been fine and I'm sure I'll be fine in the future.
So, I really thank you guys this time for reading my blog, reading my heart out and I hope that even if you are not okay when you read this blog, you will be fine at the right time. It doesn't matter if you don't feel well. But I hope, at least you feel valuable and you never feel worthless in this world because you each have your own point of view that you should respect.
Stay grateful and blessed!
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Best Regards,
Anggrek Lestari
Anggrek Lestari is an Indonesian fiction writer who has published two major books. Now She is a full-time content creator. She has a goal to share life, poem, and food content that makes others happy and can get inspiration.
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It is all about respect, respect for the self and for all others. To grief is a very personal thing and each person handle their grief personally and in their own way. No need to offer a grieving person advice, as each one has the inherent ability to sort it out by themself. No need to be nasty to them either.
Maybe the person that hurt you did not understand your situation, but that said, no need for that person to interfere at all.
Instead one can offer sympathy as I am doing here now and may she rest in peace.
Just my own way of looking at life and my condolences for your loss.
That's right. Respect is everything. I am grateful that there are many friends like you who support me so that I feel better. Thank you!
Only a pleasure and glad that you are feeling better!
This is what I worried about you after your mother's demise. The day when she passed away, I fall silent for a minute thinking about you after her demise. But after reading your blog, I feel like, you will pass this day, I sure.
I have been waiting this since that day and feel free to DM me if you have something to talk to.
With you, as well as other friends, I have felt very helpful to get through all of this. Anyway, thanks for your gifts. Yummy treats ❤️
Perhaps not all people can understand our sadness unless they wear our hearts. Often, some people mind about our business but do not even mind taking their feelings as a personal business.
Just like you, my feelings are my business too. If I am exhausted and tired of everything, I give time and space to idle. I call it to be idle with a beautiful purpose.
By the way, I so love juice to quench my thirst, and I believe it is a healthy drink. I hope you are feeling well today my friend, @anggreklestari. Have a nice time and take care.
Better to avoid people 😀 focus to build our spirit again is a must
By the way, the drink is young coconut mixed with orange juice. So refeshing and healthy treat :)
Hehe, that could be better sis. And I agree with you that we just have to focus in keeping a resilient spirit.
Awww I have not tasted a blend of orange juice and young coconut. Here in my country, we do have lots of coconut or Buko juice sold on streets or processed combined with evaporated or condensed milk, and they taste good.
Sorry to know that someone you love has left this world...may she rest in peace
.. I can feel the sad emotions here. At times i am like that. And sometimes when I want to express myself, I am being judged. So oftentimes, I just hold those emotions in myself until they are gone....
But expressing it in writing is another way to alleviate the pain 😊. We are here to listen. Hope you are okay now?
Today Im feeling good than before after taking break for many spaces.
Thank you for your caring me. ❤️🌸
I am sorry to hear that I pray for her and you can stand on the hard days.
Thank you for praying to my late mom. I really appreciated it :)
I agree with this statement. Those feelings or emotional state is there for a reason, we can't be happy all day everyday and that's normal.
My condolences for your loss!
Wow, yes we al have our own way to deal with loss and grief and should show each other the courtesy of dealing with it in our own way. It's not a one-size-fits-all.
All moments have lessons for US. We just need to through those moments, with patience, and never give up
Stay strong and take your time! :)
We will be fine no matter what will happen. I am so sorry for your loss, @anggreklestari. Wish you a peaceful soul with the silent mind. We are here to listen and share things together.
Writing is help me so much. Thank you for reading and listening me ❤️🌸
I think that a quiet environment is the best place to get a good grasp of something or to think about yourself for a while, to think about the future or to come to a small idea about what happened in the past.
One might wonder how I am going to spend today. Another person may be wondering what tomorrow will be like for me. Another person is wondering what kind of thing I should do next week. Another person may wonder how I should spend the next year, what kind of goals I want to achieve.
Just yesterday I wrote an article about feeling miserable and exhausted. That's why I haven't been around much lately. It's hard to understand what you're feeling because it's something you can only understand when you're in that situation. It's normal for people to want to help you but they should also respect that you want to be alone. Sometimes you shouldn't be too pushy. Like you said, it must be hard for someone who sticks his nose into other people's lives more than half the day.
I hope you feel better soon @anggreklestari 🙏
Dear @anggreklestari 💐
Your post is full of truths. You know that one of the most difficult things is to differentiate between what is right and what is cultural. Sometimes, the place where we live makes us believe that there are only one or two things to do things. And sometimes doing it differently would be considered impolite. But when we get out there (and it doesn't take many miles) we get to know other cultures, other regions, and what a surprise! Things are acceptable in a different way. 🤔
Having an open mind is not for everyone. We see how you are coping with this great loss and the common way of acting around you. We know you will be able to find the strength to move on.❤️
By the way, your pictures look amazing. They are very beautiful. At the moment we thought we were at the same table with you, listening carefully to what you were saying.✌️
On behalf of the whole community team, we welcome you warmly. Love🍬
I'm deeply sorry about your loss, @anggreklestari . I know how it feels when you are bereaved of someone who was so dear to you. Most times, the pains can last for a lifetime. I pray you find the fortitude to overcome the pains soon enough
I am so sorry to hear of your loss. It sounds like you have many good memories to hold in your heart.
Everyone grieves in their own way. A month is barely time to get over the shock of the loss of someone you love deeply. Take whatever time you need and don't be concerned about what anyone else says. It's ok.
Take care {{ hugs }}
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