Curly hair, an insecurity
Today I want to talk a little bit about one of the biggest insecurities that I have had all my life and that little by little I am accepting, I believe that the human being is never satisfied with anything, if we are born with dark hair we want a light one, if we are tall we want to be shorter, if we are short we want to be taller, we complain about some of our features that in the end are only insecurities that other people sow in us, I have never felt satisfied with my body, whenever I manage to feel good with something I end up realizing something else that is missing or someone else makes me see it, something I envy of these new generations is that at this time of life there is more acceptance of certain things that were criticized when I was little, my hair was always my worst enemy and curiously now it is “fashionable” and it is normal to wear curly hair, although there is still a small part of people who continue commenting on the physique of others.
When I was a little girl I used to not take much importance to that, my mom always did my hair very nice and although they were hairstyles that made my head hurt I didn't think much about my hair haha, during my growing process many things changed in me, I became more robust, my hair was more rebellious and I only thought of tying it and combing it with a lot of gel so it wouldn't move, that caused a negative reaction in my high school years, adding that I was a totally isolated person, shy and introverted, they always made fun of my hair and sometimes I wanted to style it better to not receive those comments that at that stage of my life hurt me a lot, even so they continued to make me feel bad.
That's why in my last two years of high school I could buy a straightening iron, at that time it was the best thing that could happen to me in life, I finally had a straight and beautiful hair, people told me compliments and I felt the approval of others, although that does not take away that even so my high school stage was very hard, if I had to live it again I would reject it because I was surrounded by very bad people who made my life impossible, However, I was happy with my hair, I finally felt good with it, the only problem was that I could not sweat too much, or get wet with rain, besides that straightening it very often after each wash, something that at the time I did not take importance but after a while you can notice the change in the texture of the hair, as it burns little by little.
Continue straightening my hair all these years, I still do it but at this moment I have learned not to damage it so much using thermal protector, lately I have felt good with my hair, I have learned to accept it although I still prefer straight hair, sometimes it is good to feel free, not having the worry that my hair will be damaged if it gets wet, also I have gotten products that help me to give it a little more shape, little by little I have been liking to wear my natural hair, all my life I lived with that thought that curly hair was not pretty, it was not elegant....
A complete rejection because of society, people who are only responsible for destroying your self-esteem, it is difficult to accept yourself knowing that there are things you do not like but it is worse when people are talking about you and how you look.
I love to wear my hair in different ways and I will continue to straighten it from time to time, but most of the time I will wear it natural, it really is much more comfortable and not complicated at all, I find it very funny how lately I have seen that it is very fashionable to have curly hair when before it was completely rejected (at least in my reality and my life).
These are things that seem insignificant but they really damage your perspective of the world, that's why we should always take care of what we say with others.
Your hair looks great @alexa.art :)
Thank you very much @fijimermaid 🥰
Good for you for becoming more comfortable with your natural hair. 😊 I empathize with your struggle, as I also have naturally curly hair. We used to fight a lot, but we have learned to get along ➰️➰️💁♀️.
Aww so nice! yep, sometimes this hair gets very difficult to manage 😅