READJUSTING A MAN WHO HAS NO RESPECT FOR CERTAIN WOMEN

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I visited a friend yesterday who was not at the service. I found that she was under the weather. When I was leaving, I met an argument between some people in her compound and I craved their indulgence to interfere 😅.

THE ARGUMENT
One of the men was shouting at the top of his voice that he has no respect for women. The only ones he respects are those who are able to bear children. In his words, barren women are men like him, why treat them specially?

Unfortunately his wife was there washing clothes. I do not know their story but I could tell that the man is not being fair to the wife and the woman is not happy. She kept giving her husband what youths call bombastic side eye 😅

Who gives children? God is the one we know. If a woman is unable to give birth, it is not her making. She may have no problem but instead the husband is the one to be checked. I have seen instances where a couple are childless but when they go their separate ways and married another partner of their choice, they both started raising kids. Many women have been termed barren because they have been without children for as long as ten years of marriage. But after a time, they become pregnant miraculously. I want to believe no one is barren, unless God allows it. I believe God does not forget anyone. We only have our different timing. God's times is the best.

I was able to readjust the thinking of that man. I hope I did. Such men are those who marry as such as five wives not only looking for a child, but also looking for a male. All these are not the women's making. Why give innocent women so much pressure? What if a barren woman lives in that compound, how would she feel listening in to what they were discussing?

SECOND ARGUMENT
'ALL WORK SHOULD BE DONE BY WOMEN"

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Many women are very domesticated, that is why you hardly see a woman who does not multi task. A woman is a house -keeper, the cook, the laundry guy, the nurse ( when children are sick or injured), the counsellor (when there is disagreement between children, or when instilling values on them), a teacher, a gate-keeper, name it. All these, women do for free and lots more. In spite of these, some women are not appreciated. Some are even turned into a punch bag or rewarded with infidelity.

The man in the first part of this post also brought up another discussion. According to him, he hates lazy women. When asked what in his own words defines a lazy woman he said if a woman is found wanting in all her duties 😅

"What are the duties of a woman and who made them so?", I asked.

He enumerated some of the things I mentioned above.
Well, a good woman knows her role and plays them well for the benefit of the family. However, chores should not be completely left for the woman, especially when kids are not there yet to help out. The certificate woman signs on their wedding day is not a death warrant.

I tried to make the man see reasons with me but all my explanations fell on deaf ears. I wonder the kind of life and marriage his wife is enduring. Finally, I reminded him of what the scriptures said about women. I asked him, "when God created a woman for the man, what did he say the woman should be?"

"A helper", He replied. Then I asked, " if the woman was to be a helper, then whose original job was t to do all the chores in the house?"

The man nodded and said he got the point now and promised never to disrespect any woman again. Immediately, he asked the wife to leave the clothes she was washing and continued washing them. Still, the woman helped to start spreading the clothes under the sun. What a loving wife he was blessed with!

Women are to be cherished. Whether they are mother's yet or not. Peace of mind can even make the pregnancy happen. We are all equal in the eyes of God and need to treat our partner with maximum respect.

I was glad I could help and I hope love, peace and harmony continues in that home.

Thanks for stopping by. What do you think about this man and do you have similar experience of how a wife, mother or woman was treated unjustly? Share with me. 😘😘

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