Emotions: The Ability Of Letting Go,How It Affects My Life Positively

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Have you ever had a great deal of faith in someone who let you down? You may discover it's difficult to let go after having this experience.
The ability to let go is one of life's most difficult yet rewarding tasks.

In a dishonest and difficult circumstance, it is challenging to let go. I've always been a person who is easily forgiving and does not harbor ill will. However, I recently encountered a colleague's mistrust.
To let go was difficult.

How did it happen?

Though I don't usually keep close acquaintances at work, I had a close friend there. But things changed in this guy's instance.
I used to assign him duties whenever I wasn't at my workplace, and I would pay the guy for the work. The bond becomes stronger as a result.
But late last year, a situation occurred that put an end to the closeness.

Image of I and my friend

Around the holiday season, I requested a leave of absence, but my employer denied me. I need to have a family vacation because I haven't been away for the past two years to visit my parents and my in-laws.
I have been making travel preparations, a few months before December of last year.

I rushed all my work at the site, I even did overnight work sometimes so that I could meet up with my traveling plans and nothing would disturb me.
I already have it in mind that I will delegate the remaining task to him.

Image is mine : Picture of me, rushing my work on site

We have been discussing how the two of us will host the company's end-of-year party for our coworkers. We have the zoo, the beach, and other restricted locations on our schedule. I didn't, however, let him know I wouldn't be there at the end-of-year party. I used to avoid disclosing every detail of my plans to others.

When I had two days until my departure, I told the guy that I needed to leave travel urgently in the next two days, but wouldn't tell our direct boss because I had applied for a leave of absence and he had turned it down.

I assured the guy that even if I told our boss about my travel intentions, he would still refuse to permit me. I must thus keep it away from him.
I told him to cover up the site for me as usual and he agreed.

  The Backstabbing

My supervisor called me early in the morning the day before my departure, giving me a vital assignment to represent him in another state. I have to beg him that I'm coming to the workplace to talk about an urgent travel schedule I will be going for.

He then replied that it was too late because someone told him about my plan already and he was so disappointed in me that I can keep the secret from him.
I quickly told him that I had a plan to tell him physically, and I apologized. But he was so furious at me.

When I went to the office and begged him, he informed me that my close friend told him about my travel plans.
I was very weak and brokenhearted.
This guy wants to ruin the nice relationship I had with my boss.
Still, my boss rejected my travel plans and withheld some of my compensation.

How Did I React

I confronted my friend about the incident, and he told me the truth. I asked why he did that, but he couldn't say anything. He was just apologizing.
I told him the implications of what he did. The guy thought me and my boss were not in a good relationship, so he wanted to use his advantage to be closer to my boss.
But unfortunately, his plan did not come out fine.
But I was still punished.

Did I Forgive Him?

It was very hard to forgive him initially because I trusted him and wasn't expecting that thing from him. So my heart was so heavy.

How Did I Let Go

I never held grudges or harbored an attitude of unforgiveness, but this incident affected me so deeply that I did. I harbored grudges against the man for a full month.
However, I now realize that I wasn't at peace with myself. I'm not at ease at work because it seems like something is wrong with my heart and I'm constantly thinking about it.

I realized this incident has been taking away my happiness gradually, and the guy in question came again and apologized deeply. This time around, I learned how to forgive him.
I have to forgive him and let go of the whole situation.

I absolutely forgive him as a result of my self-compassion practice. My inner peace has returned as of the day I pardoned him. It was almost magical, and I started to smile.
I've been more productive at work and have come to understand how crucial and beneficial letting go is.
It opens the door to new possibilities.

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