Lo que siento y pienso (ESP/ING)

Expressing what we feel and think in the right way is something that is said or written very easily, the issue is to know it, learn it and above all do it, this is a topic with which I am sure that the vast majority have problems or difficulties, for various reasons, but here I come to narrate my experiences, not only to read them, I see it more as a topic to assume it and begin to face them.

After reading the masterful publication of @damarysvibra, there is no doubt that in my particular case for various reasons I still have feelings and thoughts that I find it difficult to express, for various reasons, some of them is that many of us were educated pointing out that we should be cautious of what was expressed, either physically or verbally, the reasons were education, not to bother others, not to make them feel bad, because they were older and many others that I could think of.

It is true that it is one thing to express oneself and another to be cruel and humiliate another person, with the excuse that we want to express ourselves, it is a very thin line that separates one thing from the other and many take advantage or excuse themselves behind a supposed sincerity or need to express themselves to humiliate or ridicule others.

Now, it is about assertiveness, expressing oneself in the right way at the right time and in the right or correct way, not getting carried away by anger or some other feeling that invades us at that moment or I think that the right thing to do is to know how to handle that feeling.

In particular, I usually keep quiet, but my body language is very obvious and what I do not say with words I notice, call it annoyance, joy, jealousy, anger in short whatever I have I notice, now, not expressing correctly and at the right time what bothers me, It can even make us sick, since it accumulates and as everything that accumulates brings problems and when it overflows it can have an effect similar to that of an avalanche that sweeps away what is and what is not, and also with all its fury.

To give an example, of something that seems silly but is filling the glass, is that I do not collaborate with the cleaning and housework or failing that not to dirty or keep the house in optimal conditions that bothers me and especially when I speak and they ignore me, make faces, or even tell me that what I know is to fight or that I am a grumpy, There comes a time when instead of talking, I give four shouts and tell them what I should and what I should not, perhaps because I have not known how to express in the best way, the stress that causes me to perform a task at home and that minutes, hours or the next day and this as if nothing had been done.

On the other hand, as I have pointed out, I come from a matriarchal family, my grandmother and my mother raised their daughters alone and my sister and I also raised our children alone, so I am not used to the figure of the man at home who is the head of the household and all that, as you can imagine, this has affected my relationship, because I do what I want, when I want and how I want and I want him to do what I want, when now the thing is about two of a consensus and mutual respect.

The same or worse measure has been happening in my work with bosses who do not listen at all and like to humiliate the staff, which has filled me with rage and consequently sometimes I explode at another time and place for a pendejada, but it is because I have not been able to express my thoughts and feelings, and even give them their job, for lack of respect.

So the answer to these two questions would be the following, yes, it is hard for me to express what I feel, for fear, for believing that I will not be heard, taken seriously or even that I will be ridiculed, on the other hand, as for the second question I think that for the brief experiences narrated will notice that there are times when I have not been able to express myself in the right way, so expressing myself assertively, properly is something I should work on for my physical and emotional wellbeing, for my overall health.

Finally, I say goodbye and I want to invite my beautiful friends @popurri and @brujita18 to participate in this initiative. So I'm going back where I came from, hoping that this post will allow you to get to know me a little better and knowing that some of you will leave your opinions and recommendations in the comments box.