No Family Is Perfect.
I have grown up among the best of siblings. And I am always grateful for the gift of life for bringing us together. Some of the fates we don't have the power to change in life are the type of family we want to get into, and also the parents we want. We just find ourselves in life, under our parents, and siblings, and we get to love and adjust to their ways and life goes on.
If we were given the chance to swap parents when we get to life, I am sure a lot of people might have swapped theirs. There are times when we quarrel with our siblings despite the love we claim to have for them, sometimes we get into fights and misunderstandings with ourselves. But we have nowhere to push them to. We still find a way to get along with each other.
I can remember some days when I got into a serious fight with my elder brother. He would beat me, but I would still prove to be stubborn and shook my head in his arms again thinking I could beat him. There are times we keep malice and do not even talk to each other for days over petty issues. I just smile anytime I recall those memories.
My younger sis was even worse. She is stubborn and so am I. So she was always getting into my troubles and I think she loved it that way. 😆. After beating her, I will have to pay the price in some other ways. But still, I got nowhere to send her away from me or not call her my sis.
When maturity sets in, things begin to change. We realized there is more to life and there is more we can achieve together as siblings than unnecessary fights and quarrels. We began to drift apart from each other and then we reminisced on our memories as we missed each other's companionship. Then instead it brought about more love, respect, and tolerance to our lives.
I could also remember several times when Dad would advise us to love each other as siblings and not allow jealousy, envy, and hatred to drift us apart. He built a close bond between us even though we were driven apart, we still loved each other as one.
Different families with different issues.
I was in my room yesterday when I heard some noise outside. I had to wake up and peep through the window to see what caused the noise.
It was some siblings going against each other in public, they were both in their mum’s shop, and both were adults, but they still got into a fight with themselves. The elder brother slaps the younger sister and the younger one tries to reciprocate. The noise got so much that people from the neighborhood came out to settle it among them.
I was just deep in thought about the scenario. It lasted for hours. But the question that came to mind was that, now they gave themselves public disgrace, at the end of the day aren't they going to meet together again at home?
I think all of these misunderstandings are something we can settle out with maturity and not allow outsiders to peep into our family affairs because they all have theirs, but they are trying to keep it a secret by not exposing it outside to strangers. One thing I know for certain is that there is no perfect family.
My dad and his immediate younger brother have not been on good terms for years now. I don't know what caused the issue. But my uncle was the one who decided to stay away from the family.
He changed his children's surname from the general surname we used to his name, and he packed into an environment where no family would visit him.
He didn’t have this only with my dad but with his immediate sister too who happened to be my aunt. There are a lot of times when they would call a family meetup to settle the misunderstanding but it's not working out.
I am always sad and it’s unpleasant to see this happen in the family. But whoever doesn’t want to be united might be left with no choice but to remain on their own. That's family for us. I am always praying and hoping this kind of incident won’t happen between me and my siblings. Love should always prevail over everything.
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