Do you think we all need friends? I think we do. And I mean real friends. I don't know what your concept of "friend" is, but I grew up with a lofty one. I was taught from a very early age not to call just anyone "friend". We would have many "acquaintances", but from there we would choose our friends, which would be few. How am I doing getting them? Please allow me to answer.

I am one of those who think that to find a friend, we must first behave as a friend. Therefore, to find new friends I focus on what I can do for him, on what I can give, and not be so much concerned about what I can receive. Also, cultivating a friendship takes time. Because of these two things, I don't think it's easy for me to find friends. I don't think it's something that comes out of a cereal box. It takes time and effort.

I think time is also necessary so that we can see more signs of the other person's characteristics and qualities. Also, what they are interested in and what they need, and if we can adjust to that. And I'm not necessarily referring to having a lot of things in common, because I know people who become very good friends with seemingly opposite things, they have different ages, cultures and backgrounds.

What do I do to get new friendships? In a post from last year I commented that I do at least three things: share meals, do practical things for them and have physical contact. If you want more details, I invite you to check it out, because I think I still employ them and it gives me very good results.

Now, as for the number of friends .... Well... It might be tempting to respond that one would see advantages in having many friends. That could make one enjoy many good things. However, because of the concept I grew up with, I think it is very difficult to have many friends. For me, the bar is high, and I don't think many people are at that level. A true friend is someone special, and it's mutually so! It's not someone you simply have a fun time with, or have various things in common. Unfortunately, those people sometimes disappear when bad times hit. And also, when it comes to it, sometimes it is you yourself who disappears. So I am one of those who prefer few.

Sometimes I have heard it said that friends can be easily counted, so much so that if you count them on the fingers of your hands, you may have a few left over. But that doesn't bother me. I think it's enough to have that handful of people who are above average, who are special, who you know will be there no matter what. That makes one feel loved, safe and accompanied. Maybe it doesn't take a legion of people. Sometimes just one is enough to give you back the will to live.

I have friends? Of course! I know who they are (and they know who I am). Friends are treasures, and treasures are buried. So it takes work to get a friend. It's something you have to learn. It may not come out on the first try, but by persisting... PUM! I found a treasure!

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